Kean students celebrate not having to celebrate Valentine’s Day
By Jennifer Padilla | Published by Feb. 14, 2018
February 14th- a day in which we express our romantic sentiments towards someone remarkable in our lives by planning a special date, sending or receiving chocolates, flowers, and hand-written letters among other things- is just an ordinary day to four Kean students who share their dating nightmares.
1.Drives to restaurant, there’s a 30 minute wait; drives 30 minutes to another restaurant.
“A guy I met at Kean asked me out and I said ‘sure.’ He picked me up on campus because I live here. He told me it would be fun and that he will be paying for everything, including drinks and that we would do whatever I wanted. During the 30-minute car ride, not a single word was said. We arrived at Outback Steakhouse, where they told us it would be a 30-minute wait. He thought the wait was long, so he suggested that we leave. We get back in
the car, and he drives to two other restaurants, where the wait was also long and resulted in us leaving again. He then says we should go to the movies and begins to drive there. When we arrive, he said the movie he wanted started too late. At this point, I was hungry and just wanted to go back to my dorm to eat. He finally drives into his hometown, where he spoke forever about how he grew up there, meanwhile, my stomach was growling. We arrived at a restaurant there and I was just happy that I was finally going to get some food; it was all that I could think about. We left and I had to hear him talk about how good the date was and how he wanted to go out a second time; all I thought was, ‘umm, no.’ We arrived to my dorm and he insisted on walking me in to make sure I was safe. I said, ‘no, I’ll be fine’, and I signaled to the security guard outside of the dorm hoping he’d help me, but he came in anyway. He was definitely expecting a kiss or something, but I just wanted to go to sleep.” — Chimney Ogbonnaya, art education major
2.Karma: you will pay for your actions-– literally!
“I met a girl on a networking event for political science majors, and we planned to go out. I met up with her in New Brunswick, since we were supposed to meet at the halfway point. We met at a restaurant and she asked me, ‘you’re going to pay, right?’, I said ‘yes.’ She began to talk about her past relationships, and I thought it was weird. I told her she looked cute, and instead of saying ‘thanks’, she gave me an attitude. I was angry and annoyed at this point. Towards the end of dinner, I asked the waiter for the check. She was talking on the phone and before the waiter showed up with the bill, I said to her, ‘I will be right back. My friend is outside; I’m going to talk to him quickly.’ I actually left her at the restaurant with the check and never came back. I blocked her on all social media right away.” — Onell Martinez, political science major
3.She meant to order an Uber.
“I met a girl on Facebook. We arranged that I would pick her up to go out. When I pulled up to her house, she had me waiting in my car for 15 minutes before she came out. When she got in the car, she flipped her hair, covering her face and didn’t kiss, hug, or say ‘hello.’ She was immediately on her phone, not engaging in conversation but rather glued to the screen. I was giving to the music on the radio, and she was not. She brought a dress with her to be cleaned because we had said we were going to the mall. As soon as I parked my car, she got out and began to speed walk ahead of me into the mall entrance. She seemed interested online and through text, but I think she may have just used me for a ride to the mall. I just so happened to run into my friend there, so I stayed and got food with him. She texted me about an hour later saying her dress was finished. I texted her back saying she can find her own ride home.”— Eric Shandroff, communications major
“I was at the mall with my friends when I met this guy there. He seemed really cool— we had the same hobbies, liked the same bands, and he was pretty good looking. After talking for a little while, we exchanged phone numbers and he asked me out on a date. He told me that it was a surprise, and I didn’t think much of it at the time. However, once the day came, I cancelled at the last minute because I had to take my sister to the emergency room. I explained what happened to him and was genuinely apologetic about it. His response was,’are you kidding me? That is the oldest excuse in the book! If you weren’t interested, you should have just said so in the first place! I went out of my way to rent a horse drawn carriage and set up a nice picnic at the park with steaks that I cooked myself and expensive flowers—and that was all for nothing? How could you do that to me?’ I immediately blocked his number and ran for the hills.”— Maria Veligurskaya, English/secondary education major
In conclusion, as students and often workers, too, our lives are strenuous enough; staying focused can be the challenge of a lifetime, and no one– absolutely no one– has time for that.